tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2385644429447208893.post3569037748689421701..comments2023-10-06T04:16:25.661-07:00Comments on This High Calling: The Two Words I Missed {On Church and Birthfamilies}This High Callinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04300279972621462030noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2385644429447208893.post-80358200330462216812014-05-04T19:35:19.413-07:002014-05-04T19:35:19.413-07:00Yes, its so true. Every parent is worthy of hope a...Yes, its so true. Every parent is worthy of hope and I truely do wish that on every birth family. But sometimes even with your help, the birth parents dont do simple things that are in their plan. So after awhile, I lose hope. So far in the cases I have had, the plans were pretty simple things to do and I was taken aback how "easy" it seemed considering what had been done to the kids. But I soon realized its more then the plan but how motivated are they to get their children back. Parenting is a very self less job and working their plan can show where their heart is at. I have also had a case where my husband and I were ready to hire a new lawyer, get housing for our birth family...in the end we didnt need to. Having our church to support us would have been great although Im certain we would have some confidentiality issues. The director of our agency goes to our church so I think we are almost put to a higher standard. We have 5 bio children, 4 foster children currently. All siblings but just 3 of them tprd last week. We will adopt them and hope to have an open adoption. I want to still help bio mom out but it has really been hard to get her to let us in. And thank you for responding. I always look forward to reading your posts and it always encourages me to be a better foster mom seeking out His wisdom in everything.Ivanna at http://www.snapparties.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03071484046802608579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2385644429447208893.post-60524036489773987272014-05-04T15:24:36.616-07:002014-05-04T15:24:36.616-07:00Lifting you up precious girl! Feel free to email i...Lifting you up precious girl! Feel free to email if you need or want to talk!This High Callinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04300279972621462030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2385644429447208893.post-57978050423598943002014-05-04T15:24:09.970-07:002014-05-04T15:24:09.970-07:00Christina, you're so kind! And we've learn...Christina, you're so kind! And we've learned the very hard way. Will work it in! Some of our families read our blog, so we sometimes mix our stories to honor them and their privacy. Feel free to email me at cafranktie@aol.com :)This High Callinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04300279972621462030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2385644429447208893.post-77507507640717809182014-05-04T15:22:33.384-07:002014-05-04T15:22:33.384-07:00Ivanna, thank you for your insight. We have learne...Ivanna, thank you for your insight. We have learned to things...1. Every parent and family is worthy of hope. It is not our right to determine the end of their story. 2. It must come from the church so that it is not us determining the should or shouldn't, but a greater community and authority weighing in. We have had every child return home, and a wide range of responses from birth families. We are called to love, even when it's not pretty, but love does not always equal the same thing. Sometimes it is simply faithful prayer. Totally hear you in that it is so humbling that each case can be so different. So grateful for your heart.This High Callinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04300279972621462030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2385644429447208893.post-50818272793779167792014-05-03T20:00:44.421-07:002014-05-03T20:00:44.421-07:00I really like these ideas but I think it does real...I really like these ideas but I think it does really depend on the birth family. The first birth family we had could have really benefited from these types of services and help<br />. I've also had cases where the bios are not willing to do the work in parenting and after all is done, they will not provide for their children unless others are always helping them. I think this would do everyone who is involved a disservice. I guess, I've seen it and had my heart broken before where my kids are reunified only to come back out into foster care a few months later. I definitly agree that the church needs to be a help but there also needs to be a wisdom in when you should or shouldn't.Ivanna at http://www.snapparties.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03071484046802608579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2385644429447208893.post-83287192810723302162014-05-03T19:11:01.409-07:002014-05-03T19:11:01.409-07:00I read about your church support for birth familie...I read about your church support for birth families before, and it blows my mind in a good way. I would love to hear stories of how this has played out and lessons learned. Currently my foster son's birth mom is open with me, but I'm worried that the communication we're starting out with will quickly drain me when I can't do it all. Plus, I don't always know what help looks like when I don't really know the full history. Do you start by recruiting people to help as needed then ask the case worker about needs? Or directly ask the birth parent and connect them? I would love to know more!Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17635693504057980715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2385644429447208893.post-77644886071377622512014-05-02T16:46:24.622-07:002014-05-02T16:46:24.622-07:00This is so well timed for me and provides some gre...This is so well timed for me and provides some great ideas I can share with people who ask me what they can do. I am getting myself prepared for the reunification day for my foster son with his birth mom and grandmother and they have said they would like to stay in touch and keep me involved once he goes home.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11610818222803096627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2385644429447208893.post-79258507623729063702014-05-02T15:10:46.177-07:002014-05-02T15:10:46.177-07:00Don't know why my font is off!Don't know why my font is off!This High Callinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04300279972621462030noreply@blogger.com